Redditor Refuses To Help Get A Service Dog For Their Unemployed Friend, Asks If They Are Wrong

Navigating favours between friends can be tricky. While genuine friends strive to support each other, it’s crucial to recognize when requests become unreasonable or burdensome. True friendship involves mutual respect and consideration, not exploiting the goodwill of others for personal gain, especially at their expense.

In today’s story, OP’s friend is seeking to acquire a service dog to aid with panic attacks and daily tasks. However, the friend expects OP to undertake a 16-hour drive to obtain the dog, despite their own financial and logistical constraints. Despite expressing concerns about the feasibility of such a journey, the friend dismisses them, adding further strain to the situation. The OP, torn between wanting to assist their friend and recognizing their limitations, seeks advice.

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1. Is the OP an a**hole for declining to assist their friend in acquiring a service dog?

2. OP‘s friend seeks a service dog for panic attacks and daily assistance.

3. He’s been waiting patiently for approval to get a service dog, but he’s asking OP to drive 16 hours to pick it up, which they can’t manage.

4. Adding more context, OP juggle two minimum-wage jobs and struggles to make ends meet. Plus their unemployed friend hasn’t offered to pitch in for expenses.

5. OP genuinely wants to assist their friend, recognizing the significance of getting a service dog, but they are already overwhelmed with their commitments.

6. OP clarifies that gas prices are high in the US, estimating the round trip to cost over $200.

7. OP’s friend refused to book a hotel due to job interviews, citing inconvenience. Moreover, he claimed an inability to contribute financially, citing a need to settle a recent credit card bill.

8. Despite knowing about OP’s recent fender bender and car troubles, he disregards their concerns. This adds to their reluctance to undertake the extensive drive he’s requesting.

Now that you have read the story, it’s time to see what Redditors said about this. Read till the end to see other people’s opinions on this. 

9. Providing a 16-hour drive is a significant favour, even with the other person covering gas costs.

10. Have you considered taking a train instead?

11. If it’s not possible for you to go, then it’s not possible. Your friend will need to make their arrangements.

12. Even if the friend is willing to pay for the expenses, OP is still entitled to decline.

13. If the friend can’t manage his finances, owning a dog seems impractical.

14. Doubts arise about his ability to afford a service dog if he can’t contribute gas money.

15. As Reddit says, “Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm.”

16. Why not consider alternative solutions? Get a driver, split driving duties, or have someone cover gas or food expenses. It’s about finding ways to help without bearing the entire burden.

17. NTA, but solely because he refuses to contribute to travel costs, not because of the request itself.

18. He expects a 16-hour drive from you? That’s beyond entitled and unreasonable.

19. If he’s struggling with a $250 bill, he shouldn’t be getting a dog. How will he afford its care, from food to vet bills?

20. Cease financial support as this behaviour indicates he’s taking advantage of your kindness, rather than being a true friend.

Friends should assist each other within reason. Despite OP’s struggles, their friends seem indifferent. Getting a dog isn’t advisable for the unemployed friend given their financial instability. Do share your thoughts in the comments section below.

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