AITA for staying in a marriage for 10 years to make sure I got alimony?

Marriage is supposed to be a partnership, a place where love and loyalty thrive. But what happens when betrayal enters the picture and you’re forced to choose between walking away empty-handed or staying long enough to protect yourself? That’s the dilemma I faced when I discovered my husband’s affair, all while dedicating my life to caring for his sick mother. Instead of leaving right away, I made a calculated decision to wait until the prenup’s 10-year clause kicked in—ensuring I wouldn’t lose everything I had sacrificed.

A Marriage Built on Sacrifice

The Shattering Discovery

The Prenup Trap

Choosing Strategy Over Reconciliation

The Moment of Freedom

Moving On, Leaving the Past Behind

Let’s dive into what the Reddit jury has to say.

Now that I’ve finally moved on with my life, my ex paints me as cruel and manipulative for waiting him out. But I see it differently—I gave a decade of my life, my labor, and my care, and I wasn’t about to walk away with nothing. I don’t regret securing my future, but his constant bitterness makes me wonder—was I wrong for playing the long game to make sure I didn’t get screwed over?