AITA for refusing to give my daughter a kidney because she said she doesn’t care if I’m scared?

Family bonds are supposed to be unshakable, but what happens when years of resentment, sacrifice, and estrangement collide with a life-or-death request? I never thought I’d be put in this position—torn between my health, my career, my new family, and the daughter who once turned her back on me. Now, with everyone pressuring me to risk everything for her, I can’t help but wonder: am I wrong for finally saying no?

The Estrangement Years

Building a New Life

The Kidney Request

“I Don’t Care—This Isn’t About You”

The Breaking Point

Backlash and Betrayal

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In the end, I chose honesty over obligation. I admitted that I felt coerced, that my fear was real, and that my resentment could make me a dangerous donor. For that, I’ve been shamed, ridiculed, and painted as a heartless mother. But I can’t shake the question: is it truly selfish to protect my own life and peace of mind—or is it selfish for others to demand I sacrifice myself just because I’m her mother?