Abeera Anwar
Childbirth is one of the most vulnerable, raw, and intimate experiences a woman can go through. For me, planning my birth wasn’t just about safety—it was about emotional comfort, trust, and surrounding myself with people who make me feel secure. But when my trans-sister-in-law assumed she would be part of the process, what I thought was a straightforward boundary turned into accusations of transphobia, family drama, and even online har*ssment. Now I’m questioning if I crossed a line by saying no.
The Birth Plan
My Vision of a Natural Delivery
An Unexpected Assumption
The Moment of Truth
“You’re Taking Away My Womanhood”
From Family Dispute to Public Backlash
Torn Between Empathy and Boundaries
The Bigger Question
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I know childbirth is about me and my baby, not about anyone else’s sense of inclusion. Still, I can’t shake the guilt over how much my sister-in-law feels excluded and hurt, especially knowing the struggles she’s faced. I want to support her identity and respect her, but I also can’t compromise my own comfort during such a deeply personal moment. So now I’m left wondering—was I selfish for putting my needs first, or was I simply protecting my right to decide who’s present at one of the most vulnerable moments of my life?
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