AITA for calling my ILs disrespectful and ‘shaming’ them for them not using my real name?

Names carry identity, pride, and meaning—but what happens when the people who are supposed to respect you refuse to use yours? I (26F) have always loved my unique name, Oceana. It’s part of who I am, and I don’t go by nicknames. Unfortunately, my in-laws have taken it upon themselves to shorten my name to “Ana” and force that on everyone around us, despite me and my husband (27M) making it very clear that I don’t go by that. What started as mild irritation has turned into full-blown disrespect, and at a recent family dinner, I finally snapped.

My Name is Oceana – Not “Ana”

The Nickname Nobody Asked For

Family Dinner Drama

Finally Snapping

Husband On My Side

Am I Overreacting?

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Now my husband’s family is painting me as rude and oversensitive for demanding to be called by my actual name, while my husband stands firmly on my side. I can’t help but wonder if I was wrong to call them out so directly or if anyone else in my shoes would feel just as disrespected. Was I out of line for finally standing up for myself, or am I right to refuse to let others rewrite my identity just to fit their comfort?