AITA for Making Our Nanny Miss Her “Soulmate” While She Was On the Clock?

When work and personal boundaries blur—especially in roles involving close family dynamics like childcare—the lines between professional expectations and personal autonomy can become tense and emotionally charged. In situations where employees are brought into intimate or travel settings, questions often arise about what’s fair, what’s contractual, and what’s simply human.

Navigating those dynamics can reveal deep-seated assumptions about loyalty, labor, and respect—especially when conflicting needs collide at the worst possible time.

“Can I Skip Tonight? I Have a Date.”

Was This About a Date… or a Power Play?

These kinds of conflicts raise important questions about fairness, boundaries, and how we value the people who support us in our most personal spaces. When emotions run high and expectations clash, who ultimately holds the moral high ground? Was this a clear-cut case of sticking to an agreement, or should more empathy have been shown?

We’d love to hear your thoughts—do you think the decision was justified, or did it cross a line? Drop your opinions in the comments below.