AITA For telling my wife that if her sister and BIL need a place to stay, they can live in my camper

Family and generosity don’t always mix as smoothly as people think. When hard times hit, loved ones often turn to each other for support, but what happens when offering help clashes with personal boundaries? That’s the dilemma I’m stuck in. My wife’s sister and her husband, along with their three kids, are struggling and currently living out of a motel. While my wife feels it’s our duty to open our home to them, I have strong reservations. What started as a discussion about compassion quickly turned into a heated debate over space, boundaries, and what “helping” really looks like.

A Hobby Farm and a Hard Choice

When Trouble Hits Close to Home

My Wife’s Solution vs. My Boundaries

The Camper Compromise

Chores, Boundaries, and Realistic Expectations

My Wife’s Outrage

The Real Fear: A Permanent Stay

Beggars Can’t Be Choosers… Or Can They?

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At the end of the day, I know my offer may not be what my wife envisioned, but I don’t think it’s cruel or unreasonable. I’m willing to give them a safe place to stay, but not at the cost of my peace of mind or by letting them take over the home I’ve worked so hard to build. Maybe it makes me sound cold, but I see it as setting healthy limits—helping without sacrificing everything in the process. The question is, does that make me an a**hole, or just someone protecting their boundaries?