AITA for not wanting to be involved with a child I helped conceive?

Some choices made in our teenage years can haunt us for decades, especially when they were never truly ours to begin with. At 17, I was forced into carrying a pregnancy I didn’t want, pushed by my boyfriend, our parents, and a culture that left me no way out. What should have been my decision turned into months of pain, trauma, and a birth that left me with lifelong scars. Now, over a decade later, I’m being asked to step into a role I never agreed to—and I feel torn between protecting my peace and being painted as heartless.

A Teenage Pregnancy I Never Wanted

The Trauma of Carrying a Child I Didn’t Choose

Cutting Ties: Giving Up My Rights

An Unexpected Call, 12 Years Later

Parents’ Pressure and Broken Expectations

The Big Question: Am I Wrong?

What does Reddit have to say about all this? Let’s find out.

I can’t change the past—I carried a child I didn’t want and gave up my rights exactly as agreed. I’ve spent years healing from the trauma, and I refuse to be guilt-tripped into reopening wounds I’ve worked so hard to close. To me, this isn’t about being cruel—it’s about boundaries, survival, and honoring the decision I made all those years ago. The question remains: does standing firm on my choice make me selfish, or does it simply mean I’m finally protecting myself?