AITA for insisting to be called doctor by my boyfriend’s father?

Titles are often meant to symbolize respect and hard work, but sometimes they become power plays in relationships. For three years, I’ve politely addressed my boyfriend’s father as “Doctor,” even though I found it strange and unnecessary in a casual family setting. Recently, after completing my own PhD and finally earning the same title, I expected a little recognition — or at least equal treatment. Instead, his dismissive reaction sparked an argument that left the entire evening sour. Now I’m left wondering if I crossed a line or if his double standards were the real issue.

Meeting the Family: An Odd First Impression

Three Years In, Still “Doctor”

My Big Achievement: Finally, I’m a Doctor Too

“Congrats, But Don’t Expect Me to Call You Doctor”

Double Standards and a Heated Clash

The Silent Protest

Fallout at Home

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What started as a simple matter of courtesy turned into a standoff about respect and hypocrisy. I never cared much about being called “Doctor” in everyday life, but after years of yielding to his demand, it felt unfair to be denied the same acknowledgment. My boyfriend thinks I escalated things, but to me, it’s about equality and principle. If he insists on being called “Doctor,” shouldn’t he be willing to extend that same respect in return?