AITA for making the nurse at my hysterectomy pre-op appointment feel stupid?

Medical appointments are supposed to be about care, support, and trust — but sometimes, they leave you feeling more dismissed than understood. After years of crippling pain, I finally reached the point where my doctor and I agreed that a hysterectomy was the right solution. But instead of compassion, the nurse at my pre-op visit grilled me with judgmental questions, challenged my choices, and even left notes in my file claiming I was “rude and combative.” Now I’m left wondering if standing up for myself makes me the villain, or if I was right to push back against someone who seemed determined to undermine me.

Pre-Op Questions That Went Too Far

“Why Do Something So Drastic?”

The Divorce and “Future Baby” Argument

Ablation vs. Hysterectomy — Why I Chose Definitive Relief

Being Labeled “Rude and Combative” in My Own Notes

Doctor’s Response: I Wasn’t the First to Complain

Let’s check out how Redditors are reacting to this situation.

My doctor reassured me that I wasn’t the problem — I was actually the third patient to complain about this nurse. Still, being labeled as “combative” stung, especially when all I wanted was to defend my right to choose the treatment that would finally give me relief. Maybe my answers were blunt, even sharp, but after years of suffering, I refuse to apologize for demanding to be taken seriously. So, am I the a**hole for refusing to sit quietly while someone tried to make me feel stupid about my own pain?