AITA for not driving my wife to her Doctor appointment after I got off work and telling her to reschedule?

Marriage is supposed to be about balance, compromise, and support—but what happens when exhaustion collides with urgent responsibility? I came home drained after a grueling night shift, only to be hit with an unexpected demand from my pregnant wife. What started as a simple question about driving her to a doctor’s appointment quickly spiraled into accusations of neglect, selfishness, and even endangering our baby. Now I’m questioning whether I truly failed her—or if she placed me in an impossible position.

Exhausted After a Night Shift

The Sudden Change of Plans

Clash of Priorities

The Doctor’s Warning

Blame and Accusations

Reaching the Breaking Point

Now it’s Reddit’s turn to weigh in on this mess.

Now my wife won’t let it go, insisting that I’m solely to blame and that my refusal could have cost us our child. I, on the other hand, believe part of the responsibility lies in her lack of communication and last-minute pressure. I never wanted to put her or the baby at risk, but I also didn’t think it was safe for me to drive after a full night on the job. So here I am, stuck between guilt, exhaustion, and resentment—wondering if I really was the a**hole for choosing sleep over that appointment.