AITA for eating at the same restaurant as my husband’s family?

Family traditions are supposed to bring people closer together, but in my case, they’ve done the exact opposite. For years, my husband’s family has hosted monthly dinners—a tradition where partners are supposedly welcome. Yet, I’ve found myself on the outside looking in, invited only half the time, while my husband’s brothers’ partners are always included. What started as disappointment slowly turned into suspicion, and finally, frustration. This led me to make a bold move that shocked everyone and sparked a massive fight in my marriage.

Half the Time, Half the Wife

“It’s Best If You Sit This One Out”

A Steak… and a Statement

The Shocked Faces at the Family Table

“Rude” or Righteous?

The Real Fight at Home

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What stings the most isn’t the restaurant drama—it’s the realization that I’m treated as less than family, even after years of marriage. I wasn’t trying to cause a scene or destroy their tradition; I only wanted to feel included in something my husband chooses to share with others, but not me. If simply existing in the same restaurant as them is considered “rude,” then maybe the real problem isn’t my presence—it’s the boundaries and respect in my marriage.