AITA for refusing to “double gift” my friend for her wedding?

Weddings are supposed to be about love, unity, and celebrating the bond between two people. But sometimes, the drama behind the scenes makes you wonder if it’s worth showing up at all. I (34F) thought I was doing something incredibly meaningful for a close friend — pouring hours upon hours of time, effort, and money into a handmade wedding gift she specifically asked me to make. Yet instead of gratitude, I was met with accusations, entitlement, and a demand that I spend even more money on her registry. Now I can’t help but wonder… was I wrong for standing my ground and saying my handmade cross-stitch was enough?

The Bride’s “Special Request”

Hours of Work, Countless Stitches, and So Much Sacrifice

The Call That Shattered Me

“That Doesn’t Count”

The Breaking Point

My Final Decision

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What stings the most is not the money I spent or even the countless hours I lost to sore eyes and aching hands — it’s the fact that my heartfelt effort was brushed off as if it meant nothing. To me, a handmade gift carries love and significance far beyond anything store-bought. But to her, it apparently “doesn’t count.” In the end, I’m left questioning not just the friendship, but whether I should even attend a wedding where my presence — and my sacrifice — clearly isn’t valued. So, AITA for believing that the gift of time, effort, and devotion should mean more than checking an item off a registry list?