AITA for feeling resentful that my wife’s life is basically a permanent weekend?

Marriage is supposed to be a partnership — a balancing act where both people carry their share of the weight. But what happens when one partner feels like they’re pulling more than their fair share, both financially and physically, while the other seems to be living in a state of permanent relaxation? That’s the storm I’m caught in right now. For the past four years, my wife has had a job that allows her to work only a few days a week while earning more than I do. Meanwhile, I grind away full-time, exhausted, and still struggling financially. Recently, my frustration boiled over, and I told her she needs to find another job to fill her free time.

Four Years of Marriage… and the Same Routine

The Financial Setup

Her “Days Off” vs. My Days Off

The Confrontation

The Family Fallout

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Now the house is tense, my wife is barely speaking to me, and my family is split right down the middle — half siding with me, half thinking I’ve completely overstepped. I still believe my point was fair: I’m not asking her to quit her current job, just to use her time more productively so things feel balanced. But maybe my timing, my tone, or even my expectations are all wrong. So here I am, stuck wondering — was I being a reasonable husband asking for equality in effort, or did I just turn into the overbearing spouse who can’t let his partner enjoy the life she’s worked for?